Selflessness vs Selfishness – Me, Myself and Kids

Selflessness vs Selfishness


Sometimes I wonder what goes on in people’s heads.  Like how they can come up with certain things they say.  People really should think before they act or speak or write.  I recently read something that really rubbed me the wrong way.  I’ll start by saying, it was a very sad post; someone had lost their baby girl.  And while I cannot imagine the pain that they were going through, nor would I want to diminish their feelings, the way they announced it was truly bothersome.  It was through a post on a Facebook group that I am a member of.  This unnamed mother, who just suffered a terrible loss, posts that her baby had died and she wanted advice on how to cope.  Horrible, I know.  It wasn’t that, it was the fact that she said her daughter had died of natual causes in her sleep.  Let me just tell you that a number of my friends, not to mention friends of friends, got totally freaked out.  Everyone started talking about how scared they were this could happen to their own child, what should they do, etc.  All the moms I know became truly scared and nervous.  After a few days of hearing comment after comment about this post, I noticed that this unnamed mother sent another post saying that people can send donations in her babies name to a fund for a genetic disorder.  Ding Ding Ding!  The baby did not die of natural causes, she infact had a genetic disorder that can be fatal.  Why didn’t she say this in the first place??  Again, I can’t underestimate the loss her family went through, and wish this upon no one, but really?  I find it a little selfish that not all of the details were given and so many people were telling me how panicked they were about their newborn and infants.  Another post I heard about from a friend today was a woman basically complaining that she just found out she is pregnant with her 3rd boy and how is she going to handle 3 boys!  ARE. YOU. KIDDING??  There are women and families out there that struggle just to have one child!  There are people out there that have children that have mental and physical disabilties, not to mention genetic disorders!  And she is complaining that she doesn’t know how she will handle 3 boys??!!  Honestly people, get it straight, and think about how you are going to make others feel by what you write and say.  It really infuriates me to no end.  We have to learn not to sweat the small stuff, because there are MUCH bigger issues that people are dealing with everyday.  I don’t know about you, but acting selflessly will get you much furthur. I hope all you moms out there will be giving your kids an extra hug and kiss tonight.

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