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Age Appropriate Or Inappropriate?

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It was the first time I noticed him in a full stare. I mean, he’s looked at me before, but this time seemed a little different. I’m not certain if it’s all in my head or if I should even care. But what if he really was staring? What is he really thinking?

You are probably wondering what the heck I am talking about. Well, I’m referring to my 8 year old who I caught staring at me as I changed in front of him. Yup, full naked mom bod in front of my kids. Age appropriate? Let’s discuss…

Many would say, “what’s the big deal?” And to be honest, I don’t think it is. I have changed in front of my kids, let alone showered in front of and with my kids since becoming a parent. And I have never thought anything about it.

Until last week when I noticed that this time he was really staring.

Okay, so work with me here. He’s eight years of age. A lot of things are likely going through his head on a daily basis. He probably doesn’t even understand half of the things he thinks about.

When I was the age of 8 I had crushes on boys. Was I starting to wonder about bodies? Who knows? I sure don’t remember!

But is that what is going on with him? Is he looking at me because I am the only female in the house and he’s used to seeing boy and daddy parts? Does he wonder, “do all boobs look like that”? Or “Is that what a vagina looks like”?

I don’t even care that he thinks about this stuff. It’s good and it is educational and his dad and I are happy to speak to him about whatever he wants, whenever he wants. But when he stares, I now wonder if he is becoming of the age where I should be covered up.

So, do I stop changing in front of him?

Is eight years old an age where I have to stop being naked in front of him? Because I sure as hell don’t know the bloody rules!

I even asked him if he prefers me not to be undressed in front of him. I asked him if he had any questions. But he said no. We all know already that he’s not one to overly express himself or share feelings very often.

I grew up in a household of girls and one man; my father. And to be honest, I have no idea when my dad stopped being naked in front of me or whether he ever was for that matter.

So my question to you is, is there an age where appropriate becomes inappropriate?

Please share your thoughts and experiences and lets get the conversation going!!



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  • Sab Edwards January 11, 2018

    I can’t remember either but I do remember when my son used to walk around naked and I said he couldnt do it anymore when he walked out at 4am and ..well…. everythign was standing straight and I really didn’t know where to look. (like the elephant in the room eh?) I was more embarrassed then he was obviously and he made sure he wore his boxes when he came out of his room after that for me

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov January 11, 2018

      Hahaha you made me laugh out loud! I’m not even ready for when he’s older and I have to deal with that!!

  • AnetA January 11, 2018

    I’m still naked over here as I am a naked sleeper. I think as long as noone is uncomfortable it should be ok. My boys are very comfortable being naked and the girls are shy. I would love if everyone was comfortable in their bodies though

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov January 11, 2018

      I agree. If everyone is comfortable, it is fine. And until someone says or feels otherwise, we are good to go! I wonder if it would be different if I had girls in the mix? Not that I’m trying…:)

  • Britt K January 12, 2018

    This is such a good question that I’ve honestly never considered. I am going to agree with the others that as long as everyone is comfortable you are ok, and keep in mind that includes your comfort as well.
    Britt |

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov January 12, 2018

      Yes!! Thanks!

  • Mary Beth Elderton January 14, 2018

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with nudity for heaven’s sake, but that’s not the lesson here. The lesson here is about personal boundaries–a thing children need to learn. Obviously it depends on the child, but somewhere around 3-ish–maybe 2 for kids in day care or pre-K–we should be modelling the behavior we want the child to expect from adults, the behavior we want the child himself to exhibit in public or at others’ homes or at school. This lesson does not have to come with embarrassment or humiliation.but it is a necessary lesson.

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov January 14, 2018

      Agree. There’s no embarrassment or humiliation here. Just a matter of what level of comfort we both are

  • Melissa January 15, 2018

    I completely disagree with the commenter above: nudity is not sexual and when you tell your kids they have to cover up because you can’t handle it you’re telling them their bodies are shameful or nudity is wrong. When you hide your body from them, you’re telling them that you’re embarrassed to be naked or that nudity is wrong. Regarding the child who had an erection, surprise! Boys get erections from the time they’re born. He’s now been taught that an erection is shameful, not something that’s private. Girls masturbate, too, and need to be taught about privacy but not shamed.

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov January 15, 2018

      By no means and I ashamed or covering up nor asking my kids too. It’s a matter of how comfortable they are at an age where their understanding is lacking. I agree though that I would never want my kids to think anything is wrong with their bodies. But that’s not what this is about. There’s no shame here.

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