Do Your Kids Share Their Feelings? – Me, Myself and Kids

Do Your Kids Share Their Feelings?

A Day in the Life Kids Parenting

My oldest has always been a quieter kid. He’s not one to show a lot of emotion or express his feelings very often in words. I’ve mentioned before that he doesn’t even use the words I Love You to anyone. We know he feels it; he shows us in actions versus words.

But on the other hand, he is also very sensitive. And sometimes it can be hard for us because when he doesn’t share his feelings, it is hard for us to know exactly what is wrong.

The other night the entire family, including his grandparents, aunts and uncles and myself, were gathered around the table at my parents house. He asked my dad if he can get the internet password so he can use the computer for a game.

My dad, without meaning anything by it, responded that yes he can, but he must make sure he closes it after because the last time he left it open and it caused some issues with the computer.

We all looked at him and jokingly, I said, ‘was that you’!?!? And he gave a little smirk letting us know it was him. He smiled and we all laughed. We all were joking around that he had done it and found the innocent face he made cute and funny. Hence the laughter.

But he didn’t get it. He thought we were all laughing at him. ALL OF US. And there were a lot of us. And so, he started to cry. Bawl actually.

We all felt horrible! I didn’t understand at first why he was crying until we got it out of him. But let me tell you, it took a while to get it out of him because he just doesn’t like to share his feelings.

My boy is so sensitive that sometimes we just don’t get when we might be crossing a line. Which we obviously don’t mean to.

My husband and I pulled him into a different room to explain what our perspective was and try to get him to understand that we were not laughing AT him, but with him. And we apologized if it came out a different way to him and that we would never want to make him cry.

He accepted it, moved on and after a short time was fine again (it didn’t hurt that there were chocolate cookies for dessert).

I really wish I knew a way to show him that expressing feelings and talking about things is a good thing. We try to explain that holding in feelings isn’t a good idea. We tell him that no matter what he says or does we love him. And we do our best to always be vocal about our own feelings so that he can see that it is okay to talk about things.

I really hope this is a stage that he will overcome. It really is hard to help someone or understand a situation when you can’t quite get all of the details.

But for now, we just love him as he is, as we always will, and hope that as he gets older he understands that while it is okay to be sensitive (wonder where he gets it from…) he should still talk about his feelings.

Tell me, are any of your children super sensitive? Have you ever had a situation where something went wrong but you didn’t quite get it?

Please share your experiences and opinions!




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  • Kate October 30, 2017

    Emmett’s quite the talker so far, so I’m really hoping the sharing keeps up when he gets older!

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov October 30, 2017

      I hope so too! It’s hard when they aren’t so vocal!

  • Pam October 30, 2017

    We try to talk about our days and how we feel. I find my eldest sensitive more than my you gest

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov October 30, 2017

      Exact same!!

  • nicolthepickle November 1, 2017

    Yes! I have a very sensitive one, and it makes being patient hard.

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov November 1, 2017

      What do you do?

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  • Maureen March 13, 2018

    Hi Debbie. I am raising 2 highly sensitive little boys and there definitely has to be a delicate balance when parenting them. They get overwhelmed easily by sensory stimuli in their environment (loud noise, crowds, etc) and feel things more deeply than most. I know it can be challenging to raise a highly sensitive child, but also so rewarding. They have so many great qualities too. Sensitivity is not something they will outgrow. It is a trait that will always be with them, but as the get older they will find better ways to adapt and process things. Framing sensitivity in a positive light is an important part of parenting these children, so that they can build confidence and understand all the wonderful things about them. I wanted to spread awareness of high sensitivity to help parents understand and appreciate their HSCs, so I created the blog if you are interested in checking it out.

    • Debbie Akerman-Davidov March 13, 2018

      Thank you so much! I’ve never considered him highly sensitive and he’s not easily overwhelmed in certain environments. That said, this is all great info and will definitely look into it more!

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